Weird Adoption Pages.....

So, as we get closer to moving I'm looking more into adoption agencies and Facebook pages/groups. I've ran into so many weird groups as well as some helpful ones. I joined one where they talk about adoption scams and it freaks me out! In most states, you're expected to pay on top of the regular adoption fees of about $20,000 an extra $10,000 to the birth mother for expenses related to the pregnancy. That's completely understandable.... BUT...... If you give the birthmother any expenses and she decides to change her mind, then you're out those $10,000 no exceptions. And it's scary that so many women seem to know that and will fake a pregnancy or even have a real pregnancy where they don't intend to give up their child and will say they will just to get the money. It's crazy and it's scary and it's really making me think twice about adopting even through an agency. The money is such a huge issue with me and the hubby. While we both want an infant in our home, we just don't want to go through the heartache of being scammed out of money that we just don't have. So, we've been talking more about foster care adoption. It's going to be hard to do though if we're not together. He will be stationed in Hawaii, and I plan to get a home in Florida or Georgia in an attempt to get settled in before his retirement. In most cases, both potential parents have to go through a series of interviews and classes before being allowed to bring a child into the home. With him gone, it's not going to happen. So, I don't know where we are right now. I guess I'll just keep researching and praying that things work out for the best.